Consider all the gay/transgender black men, now we're down to about 9.75 million.But all those 9.75 million black men have to be single, within a certain age range, emotionally available and meet your standards.Interracial marriages were only legalized in the United States 50 years ago, which means that when a black man and white woman walk down the street holding hands in certain parts of the country, they are still going to get glared at.I had another white guy tell me that interracial sex is bestiality and that interracial marriage is against the Bible (in 2017! ) Sure, it's fun to piss redneck, Confederate flag waving, Fox News watching racists off, but dating is too much effort for that to be the only perk.And sometimes you surprise yourself and end up being attracted to someone you never thought you would be because they're not traditionally your “type." My white friend who is married to a black man said, “it's just him I fell in love with. " There's this stereotype that white women who date black guys are trying to “show off" or to make white men jealous of black men. Plus, all the males in my family are white and I have nothing but respect for them, so how can I think I'm better than them?
A white friend of mine who was dating a black guy in school (who is now her husband) says that she was quick to experience pushback, when she would hear things such as “she's taking our good men! There are plenty of black men who exclusively date black women and in those cases, white women don't have any sort of edge.In my eight years of dating white men, I've had equally good and bad experiences, but there was not one single event that made me decide that I'm no longer into white men.Sometimes people just get bored of dating the same race and want to explore, especially if they grew up in a town that was predominantly one race.These are just some observations I've made and they obviously do not apply to every interracial dating situation.I always knew that race was a problem in America, but I didn't (and still don't fully) realize the intricacies of it and how deeply it extends to dating culture.By the time you factor in the married men, fathers, or the elderly, you have a pool of black men less than the size of New York City spread out over 50 states.